brain aneurysm :(
- Thread starter livebearerfreak
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LBF - I am still in a risky situation and already know if I have another stroke I may not survive but if I do I would likely be in a vegetative state as well. It is my desire to not have any life-saving measures taken which is called a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) which means no machines. Allow me to pass. I have made the decision to remove that responsibility from my family having to do it. I know all too well the amount of damage a stroke can do to people and in many times I have talked with families about their decisions. The family is always torn up over it and often feels guilty. It is my desire to not put my family through that.
It is very natural to not want our loved ones to die. Sometimes the greater justice is allowing them to pass because keeping them alive would be more cruel. You should base it on quality of life. If they have no awareness of their surroundings and are fed and breathing through a machine, where is the quality? What is the point of being kept alive by machines? When damage is this great, is it worthwhile to try to keep them alive? Brain scans will show how much activity is taking place and a doctor can tell you if it is time to allow her to go. Your family really needs to come together as a family and put personal desire aside and think of the best thing for your aunt. Make sure you all talk with the doctors and have a full understanding of her condition. Be sure to ask the doctor questions so you understand. You must be willing to do what is in her best interest.
My prayers are with you all.
It is very natural to not want our loved ones to die. Sometimes the greater justice is allowing them to pass because keeping them alive would be more cruel. You should base it on quality of life. If they have no awareness of their surroundings and are fed and breathing through a machine, where is the quality? What is the point of being kept alive by machines? When damage is this great, is it worthwhile to try to keep them alive? Brain scans will show how much activity is taking place and a doctor can tell you if it is time to allow her to go. Your family really needs to come together as a family and put personal desire aside and think of the best thing for your aunt. Make sure you all talk with the doctors and have a full understanding of her condition. Be sure to ask the doctor questions so you understand. You must be willing to do what is in her best interest.
My prayers are with you all.
ex, we ( my family, i didnt go as i wasnt there ) had a family meeting with the docs, the family chose that if she stops breathing, were not going to put her back on the breathing machine/life support. we know my aunt wouldnt want this, she wouldnt want to be a vegitable either.. my family knows what she wants best. and thanks! yeah going up there friday.
well, staying at the hospital tomm night, most likely by myself. tell friday, as i lack rides to go anywhere. ( dont drive ) staying tell friday, so i can be there when the family gets togther..
sad news, docs said shes getting worse.. staying the night at the hospital tonight. tomm is the big day, shes going to be taken off the breathing machine. whether she breaths or not on her own, the family decided not to put the breathing machine back ( life support ) on her.. just keeps getting worse and worse, and she may have had a stroke the docs said to... or somthing of that like. 
not looking good at all..... her brain pressure was 110. normal is 10 to 20, now its around 60 yo 80 as they gave her some meds. and shes not breathing on her own anymore.. dont think she will last the day worse today then ever.
dont think she will last the day worse today then ever.
So sorry to hear this Dougnot looking good at all..... her brain pressure was 110. normal is 10 to 20, now its around 60 yo 80 as they gave her some meds. and shes not breathing on her own anymore..
